You might have been in the midst of planning your wedding, when you found out that you were going to have a baby.
If that's the case, how you and your fiance decide to deal with the practical and emotional aspects of this news is something only the two of you can determine.
But here's the thing... What you decide now will be your future to look back on some day.
Therefore, what you two decide should be well thought out, and 100% strictly up to the two of you. But you may want to do some fast wedding planning.
For example, someone pregnant recently called me asking questions about planning a wedding in a month.
Wedding planning is usually somewhat "intense" because there are always a gazillion details. But a wedding slated to happen fast, like a surprise party, takes some strategic planning.
Here's what I'm wondering. Were you planning a full-on formal, large, blow out wedding reception bash?
If you were, there's no reason why you can't go on with your proposed plans. That is, provided you'll be able to fit into that gorgeous wedding gown you fell in love with and bought, when the time comes to wear it.
If you didn't already buy one, you might want to go look at wedding gowns. Wedding etiquette is more like "self etiquette" these days; meaning, do what you want to do. If you plan to play by the rules and follow "traditional etiquette", don't walk down the aisle wearing a traditional wedding gown with a traditional wedding veil (which symbolizes virginity, by the way) - not if you're showing.
Hey, don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you or anything. But some say that to wear a traditional wedding gown is in "poor taste". And in certain circles, is considered to be an act of defiance or rebellion on your part.
If your wedding is planned so far in the future that it's certain that you'll be noticeably pregnant, and your families are totally freaking out because they're upset by the news of finding out that you're pregnant, you could opt to decide to cancel your original plans in favor of a smaller, less formal wedding somewhere, at an earlier date (to help you save the money that you would spend for your new baby). Go this route if you're seeking to be somewhat "PC" (politically correct), and still wear a long dress if you want to.
Being that you're pregnant, some would also think it more appropriate if you were to wear a color other than white. But I say, if you and your fiance are paying for everything, follow your heart and do your own thing the way that you think you should do it. If someone else is footing the bill, it would probably be wise to play by their rule book, that is - if you're concerned about keeping the peace.
If you decide to get married in a civil ceremony, again - save your money, especially if you're planning a wedding on a budget. Skip the traditional wedding dress idea and wear a dressy suit, or a short dress in a flattering style and color. This is also a good way to go if you're planning a home wedding.
If you decide to take your best friend or your parents into your confidence about being pregnant, they should honor your wishes to keep it a secret. And if they're upset about your pregnancy, they should certainly keep quiet about it. It's no use getting everyone's bloomers twisted over it. It's sad to think that relationships could be jeopardized, temporarily or otherwise, over a situation that can't be changed. During a time like this, what you need most is the love and support of those who mean the most to you. You've heard the saying, haven't you? "Let your haters be your motivators."
But other than the dress you decide to wear, when you're pregnant, your wedding shouldn't be any different from anyone else's - unless you want it to be.
Don't forget to consider your pregnancy when you think about your wedding invitation wording (because you could use your invitation to mention being pregnant, in a very classy way of course).
You might want to incorporate a baby inclusive wedding song at your wedding reception, for your "first dance" song as husband and wife. Also, think about your wedding cake (your cravings might alter your choices), looking for inspiring wedding hairstyles, and what kind of wedding flowers will positively accentuate your new found figure.
Image source: WikipediaIf that's the case, how you and your fiance decide to deal with the practical and emotional aspects of this news is something only the two of you can determine.
But here's the thing... What you decide now will be your future to look back on some day.
Therefore, what you two decide should be well thought out, and 100% strictly up to the two of you. But you may want to do some fast wedding planning.
For example, someone pregnant recently called me asking questions about planning a wedding in a month.
Wedding planning is usually somewhat "intense" because there are always a gazillion details. But a wedding slated to happen fast, like a surprise party, takes some strategic planning.
Here's what I'm wondering. Were you planning a full-on formal, large, blow out wedding reception bash?
If you were, there's no reason why you can't go on with your proposed plans. That is, provided you'll be able to fit into that gorgeous wedding gown you fell in love with and bought, when the time comes to wear it.
Is a wedding gown necessary for a pregnant bride?
If you didn't already buy one, you might want to go look at wedding gowns. Wedding etiquette is more like "self etiquette" these days; meaning, do what you want to do. If you plan to play by the rules and follow "traditional etiquette", don't walk down the aisle wearing a traditional wedding gown with a traditional wedding veil (which symbolizes virginity, by the way) - not if you're showing.
Hey, don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you or anything. But some say that to wear a traditional wedding gown is in "poor taste". And in certain circles, is considered to be an act of defiance or rebellion on your part.
Should I get married at a church?
If your wedding is planned so far in the future that it's certain that you'll be noticeably pregnant, and your families are totally freaking out because they're upset by the news of finding out that you're pregnant, you could opt to decide to cancel your original plans in favor of a smaller, less formal wedding somewhere, at an earlier date (to help you save the money that you would spend for your new baby). Go this route if you're seeking to be somewhat "PC" (politically correct), and still wear a long dress if you want to.
Being that you're pregnant, some would also think it more appropriate if you were to wear a color other than white. But I say, if you and your fiance are paying for everything, follow your heart and do your own thing the way that you think you should do it. If someone else is footing the bill, it would probably be wise to play by their rule book, that is - if you're concerned about keeping the peace.
If you decide to get married in a civil ceremony, again - save your money, especially if you're planning a wedding on a budget. Skip the traditional wedding dress idea and wear a dressy suit, or a short dress in a flattering style and color. This is also a good way to go if you're planning a home wedding.
Should I keep my pregnancy a secret while I'm planning my wedding?
If you decide to take your best friend or your parents into your confidence about being pregnant, they should honor your wishes to keep it a secret. And if they're upset about your pregnancy, they should certainly keep quiet about it. It's no use getting everyone's bloomers twisted over it. It's sad to think that relationships could be jeopardized, temporarily or otherwise, over a situation that can't be changed. During a time like this, what you need most is the love and support of those who mean the most to you. You've heard the saying, haven't you? "Let your haters be your motivators."
But other than the dress you decide to wear, when you're pregnant, your wedding shouldn't be any different from anyone else's - unless you want it to be.
Don't forget to consider your pregnancy when you think about your wedding invitation wording (because you could use your invitation to mention being pregnant, in a very classy way of course).
You might want to incorporate a baby inclusive wedding song at your wedding reception, for your "first dance" song as husband and wife. Also, think about your wedding cake (your cravings might alter your choices), looking for inspiring wedding hairstyles, and what kind of wedding flowers will positively accentuate your new found figure.
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