Thursday, March 5, 2009

We Don't Want To Throw An Intimate Party

We always thought that we wanted and needed more. I mean, that's what all this goofy stuff happening with the economy is all about. Come to find out, getting more got us less. We thought that the "'secret of success" was to get more. But it's not about getting more things or buying a particular product or service - the secret we've needed most is ... ourselves.

I know, that's brilliant in it's simplicity, isn't it? Everyone knows that human desires usually override us when we're in the midst of buying and obtaining products and things. The thing is, first and foremost it should be about - you should "buy" you.

We should start looking at how we can give ourselves more of ourselves - and discover and find ways to wrap ourselves in "getting" that, and make that our main focus - it'll save us lots of heartache and money.

I'll pull the ultimate cater-hate move by giving you an example that will illustrate what I'm saying. Being a professional caterer and event planner, my experience is that; what people sometimes want most is a party, when they don't need to have one.

What some people may indeed want most is the party - because they may want the grandness of it to feel better about themselves, but I’m guessing that these days, more and more - people really might want an intimate, simple, fairly (no, probably a better than fairly) priced, setting that, perhaps displays and feeds a newfound set of values, that displays and shares intimacy with the people you care about and love.

What people, deep down, want most is to feel better, have more time, fall in love, get a new job, make more money, and gain a sense of control in their lives with less stress. That’s the human condition. What if in addition to getting an unfussy but elegant, fairly priced, party you also found ways to make reading the new bestselling book, going to a movie alone, cooking at home or knitting holiday gift garments ahead of schedule a bigger part of how you'd plan to help yourself get what you most want, while clearly standing out by differentiating yourself ... YOU!

What do you want most? What's near and dear to your heart? Maybe it’s to have life make more sense, and to get home earlier in the evening. We’ve figured out how to get on the Internet and hang out with strangers. Why not help ourselves to get to know ourselves better? How about we try building a network of trusted "advisors" that will help us systematically get out of working to buy more stuff - and instead help us to work at "buying" ourselves.

When we become a better resource to ourselves, when we work to achieve our personal goals - we will be more present and available to ourselves and everyone - and the best part is, we won’t have to sell ourselves on buying one more stupid thing.

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